Love Affairs in Marriages
There are several reasons that cause many men have love affairs while in marriage. Firstly, according to a marriage counselor M. Gary Neuman and the author of The Truth about Cheating said that emotional disconnection, specifically a sense of feeling underappreciated is the main reason that causes men cheat on their spouses. "Men are very emotional beings. They just don't look like that. Or they don't seem like that. Or they don't tell you that," M. Gary Neuman said as well. Life is not a fairy tale. When people get married, there are a lot of complicated things to deal with. For instance, pressures of daily life, stress at work and even different opinions on raising children. Without good communication as well as appreciation for each other, those problems could easily cause a sense of disconnection between husbands and wives. Therefore, as long as the right time or occasion comes, some husbands may want to find some consolation from other women and then make a very serious mistake in marriage.
The second reason that causes men cheat on their spouses may be loneliness. Due to the traditional social identity, males are often taught that they should be strong as well as tough in both physical and mental status. They cannot shed tears in front of people or reveal their true feelings to others. Once they do such things, those men might be considered weak or lack of masculinity. Therefore, when husbands encounter some difficulties or feel stressed out and upset in life, most men tend to hide their feelings and be not willing to express their emotions. Gradually, it results in a sense of emptiness and solitude because they have no one to talk to. If a man really wants to find someone to share their feelings, an unfamiliar woman could be a good choice since talking about the inner feelings with the other half is too embarrassing. Also, he may feel that he loses his own dignity in front of his wife. Consequently, we can say that a love affair starts from loneliness.
The third reason that men be unfaithful to their spouses may be seeking for excitement in marriage. To some men, having a romance while in marriage is something acceptable, also being with their wives all the time is a little boring. Those married men have nothing to talk to or share with their wives; however, a girl who they meet outside of the house is totally different. What the girl can provide or satisfy their needs is something those married men cannot find in their wives. It can be consolation, a sense of belonging or physical need. In a word, those husbands can find something new as well as excitement in daily life by being with women who they meet outside of the house.
In Wang’s case, the despair in his baseball career, pressures of recovery from injury and the expectation of all his fans around the world made Wang want to run away from his real life. During Wang’s the most difficult time, he met Cyndi and started to date with her. This woman became Wang’s temporary shelter. Then these two developed a secret relationship and finally this Taiwanese baseball player cheated on his wife.
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